The 5 Principles of Dance Game

What do clubs, lounges and most bars have in common?

That’s right, they're all venues to pick up women.

What else do they have in common?

99% of them have music and a dance floor.

Dance game, though shunned by many in pickup, is very important. All women like dancing, and if you twirl a woman who is in state from the music, there is no way she can resist. It is an activity with grace and movement. The feminine is very attractive to this, and men who embrace dance get the extra attention by women.

Men like activities with goals and missions, such as sports and video games. Women on the other hand like an activity like this, where it is about the process and not the final destination.

Now you don’t have to be the best dancer to be successful. You’ve seen guys on the dance floor, whom although weren’t the best dancers, still get the girl. You’ve also seen guys on the floor who were good, not get the girl.

It’s not about how good you are. You guys know that. However having the correct principals in place will carry you a lot further to success. 

Here are the 5 principles of Dance Game:

1. Have fun

When you are having fun, nothing else matters, time stands still, you can be doing the silliest activities. It almost seems contagious, and others around you pick up on that and also start having fun.

Take a second to observe the next time you go out to a club. Notice the guys who are really “ON”. You will soon see that a group of  regular guys will start forming around them, wanting to pick up on that energy and be where the party is. Girls will notice the guys too, and you have to develop the observant qualities to pickup on that eye contact, or brushing of the hair to see which ones what to join the fiesta.

When you are not having fun, all your moves and actions seem to be calculated, you are in your head and can’t be yourself.

2. Be in your own reality

Once you accept your dance moves as being really cool, then you won’t accept anything else. No matter if they are mediocre or amazing, your acceptance of what is or what isn’t cool, will be sub-communicated.

I’ve seen really lame dancers who danced like monkeys convey to others that they were really good, because they had a smile on their face and didn’t accept anything else. Girls loved it and entered that reality. After awhile I entered it too!

Try it. Try the Robot. We do the robot, and not the best robots when we were starting out, but in our minds it was the SHIT. Before we knew it we were in the middle of a bachelorette party with girls imitating it and begging for our attention.

3. Smile

You’ve heard it many times before, but when you dance it seems to be most especially important. How quickly do you think a girl gets turned off by a serious dancer? Answer: very fast. The two don’t seem to jive.

This is evident even in dance competitions. Click on YouTube and check out the search “Salsa Competitions” and you will see the pros with a smile on their face all the time. They will actually lose points if they don’t smile. Another thing about smiling is even at first, if you aren’t having fun, this change in physiology will soon cause you to feel like you ARE having fun.

4. Do the basics

Be it salsa or hip hop or techno, the basics exist. Once you have the basic one-two step in place you will fit in. It doesn’t take much effort and with practice it will feel ordinary. You can be comfortable repeating this over and over, whether its chilling with the wings or opening a girl.

Girls are pros at this. Watch girls on the dance floor, they aren’t amazing dancers and actually keep repeating the same one-two moves for literally hours on end!

5. Have 1 or 2 “moves”

Once you got the basics in place it is good to have some sizzle, a turn a twirl or a spin will add some fire to the routine. Girls love this and if attraction is at the peak, this can be the last step to get over the hump. A tip on this is, for me personally I like to put a move at the beginning and one near the end or when I feel the climax is going to happen.

It’s like a story you want to have a catchy intro and a great climax to it. These are the basics of dance game. Very easy to use and apply them the next time you go out.

Next time we will talk about the 5 things to avoid during dance game.