Managing Time! Managing Multiple Girls and your Time

A well-rounded social guy has many things on the go. He makes time to go to the gym. He makes time to connect with his family and friends. He probably has to do his taxes at some point. Add going out, and hooking up with the girls he’s met to this, and it can seem like a heavy workload!

One of the challenges I see in guys who are beginning to get success with girls, is they don’t have enough hours in a week to hang out the girls they meet. Even with this being a “quality” problem, it’s still one most guys face.

How many girls should you have at a time? It’s a common question.

I know guys who have a different girl for every day of the week. I also know guys who can’t be with more than one girl at a time.

My workload is pretty busy. I have many goals and dreams that I want to realize in this short life. I work fulltime and have a couple of side business that take up time. For me, I usually focus on no more than two long-term relationships (LTRs) at a time. The other girls I only put on text/e-mail or phone basis. It’s fun to flirt with them in my spare time and later we might hook up for something more.

It all depends on how serious you plan to do this. If the social arts are something you want to master, than more of your time and attention should be put there.

When you do hook up with girls, have willpower. Be assertive with her, and make it known what you want with her. If you don’t want a long-term relationship you should make this very clear to her. It might seem difficult and you might fear losing her, but here is where you exercise the abundance mentality that there are many other girls out there, and you have a choice! If you don’t do this and aren’t upfront with her, she might look to take from your time to do lovey-dovey type activities. In her mind she will be your girlfriend and it would be that much harder later on.

The most important part I will leave you with is to always remember the purpose you want. Picture the result you want, and answer the most important question - WHY are you doing this? What is the result? Once you have this figured out and know what you want from the social arts, you can always drop things that aren’t helpful to you and pick up better things that are.

By starting from answering the question why you are you going out, and identifying what you really want in the social arts, then you can develop stronger willpower and know exactly how many girls to be with, balancing both your time and life better.